April 2009


Friendship

Today, I had a very long conversation with a friend, a new friend in fact. We laughed as we discussed our mutual journey to grow our projects and turn dreams into reality. There’s an incredible power in friendship. We all know that, but it is sometimes forgotten when the world pushes us too hard and fast. A good friend is like gold. Unfornately good friends sometimes get lost along the way and that can be a sad thing.

As this world continues to shift around us we need our friends now more than ever. We need the comfort that they bring, the relaxing acceptance they offer and just the fact that good friends bring peace and joy.

Today’s post is a little reminder to slow down enough to be with a good

Send a Real Card to a Friend

Send a Real Card to a Friend

 

 

friend this weekend. If there’s not a way to do that then send a good friend a real card, you know; one you buy at the store, or give phone call when you have some time to chat.

Good friends are valuable and worth so much more than the stuff that we collect.  

Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You, too? Thought I was the only one.” C.S. Lewis

This post is dedicated to my friend the “Land Guy”. Thanks for your help and for believing. It’s so good when others believe with us.

Be a friend today, believe with someone else…and say I love you. It’s like calm to a nervous heart.

A Wild Goal is something that moves you closer to where you want to be. It doesn’t have to be huge to be wild, but it does have to be compelling enough for you to stick with it. Here are a few tips on getting started with your own wild goals.

Take time to Figure out what You Want

  • Sit down and think about what you want in a particular area of your life. It may be work, home life, relationships or writing a book. It’s different and special for each person.

Write it down in Strong Committed Language

  • Once you’ve figured out what you want, write it down as clearly and powerfully as possible. For example, one of my Wild Goals is to write an article featuring a different business each day for 60 days. So here’s my Wild Goal statement: Each day, for sixty days I will write a an article for my Bellaonline.site. I’ll write from 6:00am-7:00am and post it by 7:30am. That’s it. That’s one of my main Wild Goals for this Wild Goal season.

Dedicate Time to Do it

  • As in the example above, once you write down your Wild Goal, set aside a time to do it and put it on the schedule. If you’re goal is to spend 15 minutes cleaning the house, schedule a time to do just that. Plan to clean from 7:15am-7:30am each morning or night. Then check it off of your list.

Prepare

  • Once you know what the goal is, you’ve written it down; you’ve scheduled it now it’s time to gather the resources that you need to accomplish it. For cleaning your house you will need to make sure that you have the proper supplies: cleansers, dust cloths or duster, trash can liners, detergent for laundry, window cleaner, broom, and mop. Whatever you need, just get prepared in advance so that your 15 minutes are actually spent doing the work and not gathering your supplies.

Protect

  • It almost never fails that once you set a Wild Goal and put it on the calendar, something else comes up. A friend needs a favor, or the kids want to go visit your sister or you get invited to a spontaneous girl’s day out lunch. It’s in those moments that you have to protect your Wild Goal. You don’t have to be a sergeant about it but you do have to be strong and practice the art of saying “no or “I can be there but I have to do something else first”. Do whatever it takes to protect your goal time. This is the reason I schedule my writing time for early in the morning. It’s quiet and unless there’s an emergency, nothing disturbs me.

Practice

  • It make take a little bit of time to become productive during your goal time and you may not work as fast or efficiently as you’d like. That’s ok; understand that you are creating a new habit and that a Wild Goal is something that moves you closer to where you want to be. However, that means you are also moving away from where you’ve been. That’s hard work. So, if you do all of the above and at the end of your time feel that you haven’t gotten much done, don’t worry just try again the next day.

Kick Perfection Out of the Door

  • I mean it. Go to the front door and kick perfect out, tell it to go and never come back. You will never accomplish your Wild Goals, if you’re haunted by perfectionist demons. They will mess with you every step of the way, so right off the bat, just kick them out. Embrace your mistakes, laugh at them even, and think about how other successful people made so many mistakes before hitting on the “real” thing. Don’t be hard on yourself this is supposed to be fun and it will be if you give perfection a swift kick right from the start.

Advance

  • When you find yourself getting in the “zone” advance a little. Extend your 15 minutes to 25 minutes of cleaning or whatever. Take a little more ground toward your goal when you feel the time is right. This is when the exuberance will really kick in, as you experience your success and growth.

Celebrate

  • Wild are meant to be fun. When you get something done that moves you forward, celebrate no matter how small you can do a happy dance, or a victory lab or a fabulous journal entry. Find ways to celebrate. I do this funny thing. Here’s my celebration system. I have two jars; one is filled with clear glass beads, when I accomplish a goal I put a bead in the other jar. I like to see them add up and by the end of the week I’ve earned a certain number of beads. Each week or sometimes each day I earn several beads. I like to see how many I earn and I’m always trying to increase the number. I know sounds well…simple, and it is that’s why I like it. I like simple and I like to see things add up. So that’s what I do. You figure out what your system looks like and then celebrate your wins and embrace your misses and try again.

Gratitude Attitude

  • Ah, I can’t stress this enough. Be thankful for everything each and every day. Kick complaining right out the door with perfection. Whatever happens on the journey to your wild goals have an attitude of gratitude. This will keep you save from discouragement and from being influences by the negativity of others.

This is your time to see your Wild Goals come true. You’re worth it and your exuberant most passionate life is waiting, so go ahead…get wild and show up!